Sabtu, 07 November 2015

Antique Find

Happy Friday!

Cole and I went on a mission today for my son.
Our favorite antique spot.
 I am still not feeling great ,but I wanted to help my son.
And not miss a chance for a ride.
I did not find the treasure my son wanted.
 However I found this cool painting done by someone named Gabrielle in 1980 and I love it.
I promised myself I wouldn't spend any money, but I was in love.
So the turkeys don't eat till Tuesday..hehe

September Joy Wishes Friends!

Jumat, 06 November 2015

Christmas Ornie Swap

Good Ornie Morning Friends!
A month or so ago I joined Marie at Primitives by Old Lady Morgan's Ornie Swap  and boy am I glad I did. I am so over the moon with my ornies I received.
 Do you see what I see yes I got a GINGER! I LOVE GINGERS!
Prim wonderfully made by Becky at Primitives Stitchin. I look forward to getting to know you Becky. I just love the Ginger Man!
 Second a awesome Country Prim Star with a rusty bell from Shirlee at Farmhouse Ponderings. I'm gonna have to hide that sweet star from my daughter. She loves stars.
And last but certainly not least a Prim Precious Little Stocking from Tammy at a Primitive Place it is has sweet prim candy canes and greens. Just love. Thank you Sweet Blogs Friends and especially to Marie for hosting. Marie also sent the most amazing Christmas hershey kisses. I never had candy cane kisses before. YUMMO! Yes Marie I found and bought some already.
Thanks for the info..hehe

Well I am off to do some stitchin on some Woolie Stockings and a new Woolie Wednesday Project.

Rabu, 22 Juli 2015

How to deal with binges?

Some of us have to deal with binges. It makes us panic, freak out, hate ourselves, and punish ourselves.

When you are not eating your body's natural reaction is hunger, low blood sugar, and craving for food. And when you have an eating disorder, this craving often leads to a real binge. Not just a snack, or two. We are talking about eating so much your stomach hurts, and you still can't stop. It's hell.

So, here's some tips to try to avoid binges.

1) Make sure you drink enough..At least two liters a day. Water, coffee, green tea, sugar free energy drinks, etc. Ice water with a mint flavor is my personal favorite.

2) Eat chewing gum, strong mint flavors are the best. All food is disgusting with mint taste in your mouth, and you are chewing something..

3) Distraction
When you have craving, or feel you are going to, make sure you can distract yourself from it.
You have to find something that takes your focus completely away of food. For me it can be singing, writing, drawing, dancing or playing piano or flute. Just something you really love.

4)Don't be alone
Doing something with someone else, so you're not alone can be even more helpfull. Binging is not a thing we do in front of other people. So, go to a friend, family, church, the park. Any place where you can find people. If you don't have anyone to hang around with, go to a public place like a park, or go to the movies. People will see you, and they will notice when you binge.

5) When you have a lot of problems with binging, it's better to eat little things six times a day. It will level your blood sugar, so you won't crave as much. It seems awkward, since most of us really don't want to eat at all. But eating six times a day will actually be much better. It helps against binging, and your metabolism will be more active.
The reason you get cravings for food is because your body doesn't have energy anymore, so it needs fuel, meaning food. If you don't give it, your body will go on 'stand by'. Your metabolism slows down, and you'll burn less calories. Meanwhile your body keeps screaming for food, when it finally gets it, it will be supercheap with it. Preparing for the next hunger strike. So eating six times a day is a better and healthier way.
You can eat fruit, some kinds of nuts, vegetables, and for the best eat at least two times something with carbs.

6) Don't buy things that trigger a binge.
This one is kind a obvious. When you are in charge of the groceries, make a list before shopping, and stick to it. Don't get food in your house that is not in your regular diet.

7) Food plan and journal
Make a structured list of what and when you are going to eat.
Write down exactly what, when, at what time you are going to eat, and try to stick to that plan. Make sure you set goals that are realistic. When you make a plan to not eat, and crave and binge, you will hate yourself. Better make a plan to eat a little more and prevent binges than fail. Stick to the list at least one week, and then see if you can make some changes.
Also keep a journal, where you keep track of what you ate, at what time, but also the times and places and triggers of your cravings and binges.

8) Structure
This is going to be a little bit lame again. You have probably thought of it yourself, or others have told you this over and over again.
But, it is important, healthy, and very helpful to have a daily structure. Even though this may not be the first time you've heard this, when you ask yourself about it, and answer really honest. Is there need to improve your structure? Are there too many moments in a day when you don't know what to do with yourself? Those moments are ideal for the binge monster to strike.
Now, I am not suggesting you should work and keep yourself busy 24/7. But you do have do get off your auto-pilot, and make sure that you are always fully aware of what you are doing.
It has a lot of benefits. First of all, for those, who just like me, don't have a job, it is important to get out of your house, do things, socialize, do some volunteering, or whatever that makes you feel like you tribute to society. Spend time developing your talents, anything. Avoid the situation where you're going to be a couch potato. It's very easy to get there, so don't!
Then, for everybody. Whether you have a job, go to school, live alone, with your parents, boyfriend, or your husband and kids.
We are all human, and we are human beings who are obsessed with food. Which means that we most likely live every other part of our life on (semi)auto-pilot.
 You may not even notice right now. Then you probably think I'm high while writing this. If so, I hope you will look back one day, cause you'll see eventually.
Anyway; benefits of a structured life, and therefor, or by, being aware of what you are doing.
- You have a safety in your structure, plan day by day. Or, as I like to do it, I plan bigger things to at most  month ahead (festivals, birthday, other party's, doctors appointments etc), so I can prepare for big things, like a festival. But I plan my days in detail one day ahead. And I always have a back up plan where needed. So I won't be faced with surprises which can lead to destructive behavior.
- Giving more attention to the things you are actually doing is distracting you of the food. Instead of obsessively thinking about food, you are paying attention to something else. Well, this is a simple calculation, not thinking about food, makes the urge to binge less stronger.
- Paying more attention to the things you are actually doing, might make you feel better. Assuming you are doing something you like. It might even help to get to know yourself better.
- When you have a structured life, and manage to keep a food journal, it's easier to find out what and when your weak spots are. When you know your enemy, it's easier to battle it!

Now I have a lot of psychological inside stuff about this one, but I won't bore you with that.. For now ;) I'll move one.

9) Write!
A lot of binges are caused by emotions. You can feel lonely, angry, sad, depressed. Or, what I mostly feel when I don't know what to do anymore, is just this horrible emptiness, like a wormhole that has such great power that it sucks everything inside. And unfortunately we do not have the science yet to tell us where everything goes. And that stupid thing, it takes every bit of life force out of me, but no matter how hard I bed, it won't take me...jack-ass.
No, just kidding, but I guess you do know that awful lonely, empty feeling. I find it very hard to deal with too, still, after twelve years of therapy. It makes me want to hurt myself, use drugs, or just do something stupid to get rid of the feeling.
And having a binge, even though you did not wanted it, is an other way to cope. It is litterally trying to fill the empty space.
And here I go again; another cheesy line. You don't feel better after a binge.
So, when you sense yourself feeling even a little out of balance, try to write about it. Get a diary, a blog, use poetry, or art. But try to get your emotions of your chest before they pile up and you are going to explode.

10. HALT
Remember this word, and check yourself..
HALT means:
Experience has learned that when we are in one, or more of those states, we are more agitated. We are vulnerable. And more likely to react in self destructive behavior that is in our comfort zone. There will not be much needed to set us off, just a stink eye from a strange lady in the subway, that was not meant for us, but we decided it was. And off we go.
So, remember HALT, and try to avoid it.
***Side-note: Hungry will become less of a problem as you get used to a minimum diet, and eventually won't be a problem at all. But, not to be bitchy, since this post is about binges, I think hunger is an issue in some cases. So I do think it is important to take this seriously. Better take a little bite to avoid a binge, then to be sorry after...

I hope this is somewhat helpful.
For more questions, you know where to find me!

Love Jade

Negative calories

Hi everbody!

Lately I've been hearing a lot about 'Negative calories'.
So, I thought it was time to learn you all some things about calories.
Start at the basics; shortly, cause we already know that...

Calories, also known as Kcal, or KJ is the stuff in food that gives us energy. Kcal's contain out of carbs, fat, and proteins. And these things are nessecary for your body to live, to make you heart beat, blood flow, and keep your brains working so you don't forget to breath.

Ok, so we knew that already.
Then there's this myth, about 'Negative calories'.
This is about foods, that by saying,  contain this less kcal, or are so hard to digest, that it costs your body more energy to process the food, than the food actually contains.
Nothing about this is true. When food is hard to digest, it simply stays in you stomach longer, and the acids do their work.

Whatever is a true fact about kcal, is that you can beat them. You can calculate who many kcal you would burn by doing nothing with a smple calculation. That's the energy your body needs to keep your organs working. I advise everyone to take at least this amount of kcal everyday, to prevent serious health problems.
The formula to this number is; (your weight) x 1 x 24 =

That amount of energy is what your body really needs, but actually, this is what your body would live on when it was in a coma. So I higly recommend, or ask, to eat this at least. For the best.
It will prevent things you don't want to be dealing with.

How are you all doing?

We'll the tittle says it all...
I'm just wondering, how are you all doing?
Are there already some buddy matches made by yourself?
And how are you holding up?

I'm extremely busy by answering your emails, but I love to do so. And same time trying to make something of the forum, which does excist, but I don't understand it yet. But we are getting closer every day.

The safety settings are back to what they were, cause there was no way to keep up for me with all the busy traffic. What still remains is that all reactions have to be moderated by me first.

I'm also busy matching you all as buddy's together, looking for who I think are going to be good couples, but you all understand that its all a lot of work I hope.

Just know, I'm working a daytime job for ya'll. And I do it with all my love!

Love Jade

Safety update

Well, I ve looked around, and came to the conclusion that I can close the blog. But it is impossible to let everyone be able to read it.
So, I am not going to close it.

What I did change;
- All reactions have to be seen and approved by me before being published (did that two weeks ago)
- And if you want to react you must be a member from now.

When the forum goes online, I'm going to take the topics with email adresses and everything overthere, and delete them here. At the forum you have to become a member before you can So than we won't be bothered by anti's. And we can still come here to spill our  everythings. Cause they can't react anymore at the blog. First of all, no anti will become a member, and second, I read all messages before published.

So, its a little bit safer. But maybe its bettter to wait with posting email adresses online till we have the forum, or send your mail to me, and trust me to find a match buddy for you.
Just so you don't get stupid fat jealous bitches stalking you.

Love Jade

Inositol: The wonder vitamine!

Inositol is also very good to take for your hair and stuff, and for lots of other stuff. Just thought of that today.
Pretty stupid, since I've been using it for so long. But let me share my little secret with you....

Back in the days I had my share in drugbiz (not proud of it, and 100% sober now!) but we used that stuff to mix it up. And nowadays I still use it because sometimes I just need know, the addiction.

Only the thing is, that Inositol a vitamin is, which is also produced by your body, under normal circumstances. And that's not the case for us.

But, to go short; Inositol is a part of vitamin B complex and this is what it does for you:

It works against hair loss and even against getting grey hair
It keeps your metabolism rolling, so no more ‘survival mode’ when you don’t eat.
It breaks down fats that cause high cholestrol and heart failure, the ‘these make you fat - fats’
It helps against depression
It can help against panic attacks and anxiety, it is tested on people with OCD. ( Now, let it be so that I have OCD, and now reading this and looking back….since I use Inositol I am a little bit more relaxed)
It helps against insomnia (would be great for those who binge at night!)
It can slow down, and maybe even prevent cancer

Actually, it brings your body in balance, it helps your liver to cope with chemicals, it helps your kidneys, and even more. So its also a very good supplement for those who vomit and take laxatives.

So why is this miraculous powder stuff not on your doctors prescriptions list?
Well, there hasn’t been enough research done, and there is a concern that the inositol may reduce the body’s ability to absorb zinc, calcium, and other essential minerals.

Where to buy? Just online, or at your local smart/head shop.
(I don’t know if everyone has that….that’s always a problem if you have a world wide blog. But there is always airmail!!)
And to be clear, this is not drugs! This is an element your body makes itself in low levels. But however, it needs food for that of which I'm sure most of us willl never eat (Like liver, eggs, and other fat things)

Love Jade